the quality of our connections

The genious developer of psychodrama,JL Moreno wrote a pivital book "Who Shall Survive?" which noted that the quality of our connections determined the quality of our lives. Where were our loyalties to: family, friends, religion, schools,community,government. Where are our loyalties? Where do we fit? Who do we reject and who are we attracted to? What social structures define us? No where have these questions needed asking and been ignored than in the US involvement in both Afghanistan and Iraq. Our military goals have totally ignored centuries of connections and culture in both of these countries. We are trying to reshape sociometry-the connections of a people for a centralized government when their primary loyalties are to their individual tribes-not to a centralized government. We cannot shape a country into a mold they we think is best for them. This is total arrogance on our part. We still struggle with the role of states rights vs those of a contralized government and we expect Afghanistan who defeated the Russians to reinvent themselves. This is a sociologically impossible task. Militarily its even more so. Setting a goal of stability is impossible to achieve. You can't ignor centuries of culture.